A more realistic view of the real Pros and Cons of Attachment-Style Parenting:

Cons: 1. Huge time suck: Think 'most of 20 years.' When I was asked why  spend so much time engaged this closely with my children, my simple answer was 'I like them, and I like spending time with them,' as true in their infancy as it was in their toddlerhood, teens and twenties. I wanted to care for them as much as I cared about them.

Pros: 1. Independent, adventurous, self-confident...~ 3. Strong trust, a benefit to me

...what we're going through now:

What people struggle with, especially when they want something to be really special, 'for the season' or 'for the kids' or, probably most accurately, 'for making up for all the horrible experiences in this season in the past that still haunt' --what people really struggle with is that list of big emotions I started with:

• disappointment
• dread
• frustration
• the unknown (unknowable) future
• worry
• annoyance
• powerlessness